Friday, 15 January 2010

Should I force my son to wear a hat and scarf?

He's six years old - and for some reason he's decided that he hates hats and scarves. He'll wear gloves without a problem - but flat refuses a hat and scarf.

Through the recent cold spell - it's been a bit of a problem. Myself and my three year old, heading out, wrapped up in layer upon layer of clothing... my eldest, with his coat unzipped, looking freezing.

Before I had kids, I would have said, 'Make him wear a hat - you're his mother - you're the adult!' But now I realise that it's just not that easy.

I tried for a while - but decided that the daily fights were just not worth it - and besides - my victory was pointless as he never wore his hat at playtime and generally tried to lose it by hometime - so I'd end up scouring the classroom for it every afternoon.

I've given up - he's cold - I look like I'm a neglectful mother - but at least we can leave the house without fighting every morning!

Am I right to let him have his own way - or should I force him to wrap up?


  1. I think he'll soon get tired of being freezing and will be glad of his hat and scarf! It's obviously a 'street cred' thing - doesn't want his mates seeing the cold worries him!

    Julie xx

  2. Hi Julie,
    Amazingly he stuck to the street cred thing and is still refusing the hat and scarf. But he doesn't seem to be suffering for it so I'm letting him do his own thing. I wouldn't mind but all his mates wear hats and scarves.